Twin Flames ~ Is my partner my Twin Flame? What is the purpose of a Twin Flame connection?

Twin Flame Connections – Is my partner my Twin Flame? What is the purpose of this connection?

There are many theories written about Twin Flame connections and what they involve that can give us an insight into what is considered to be a highly spiritual union between two people and what this type of experience can encompass. I work in an industry where it’s not uncommon to hear someone describe their relationship partner as someone who they feel is their Twin Flame but very often their interpretation is based on the romantic and sometimes addictive feelings that they have for someone else but in most cases these experiences fall into one of the two following categories:

SOULMATES.

In cases where the relationship is stable and steady this is likely to be a Soulmate connection that either is, or will, develop into a lifelong partnership where a loving and harmonious family environment can be created and where both partners work on valuing and respecting each other which is a great thing.

KARMICS.

In other cases this term can be used to describe the feelings that someone has for a lover who isn’t available emotionally or sometimes literally, perhaps because of already being in a relationship or being averse to commitment which can create obsession and a sense of addiction in the person who’s describing their experience as T.F. Their experience does tend to mimic the T.F experience to some degree in terms of obsession and addictive feelings but karmic encounters tend to bring out some of the worst traits of human behaviour and can lead to a lot of pain that requires support to heal from whereas the T.F. experience does not hold this energy. Karmic connections can be experienced in cycles - there tends to be more than one experience like this though that is not always the case. If it is, then usually the individual will eventually be motivated to get some help to overcome relationship wounds that may have existed for a long time. Karmic connections have the effect of teaching the person experiencing them to create boundaries, cultivate love and respect for themselves and only seek future relationships with people who are grounded and more emotionally mature.

TWIN FLAMES.

So how can we tell the difference between the two? There is one valid way to actually know this and it relies upon actively experiencing the energetic bond which is felt physically – not just emotionally - that connects the two people together in a variety of ways. This bond is formed during the meeting of the T.F.’s during a stage of their life where they encounter each other and some form of friendship or acquaintanceship is established. One party (usually the masculine of the pair) becomes aware of the connection before the feminine though it is unlikely that they are able to understand why they may feel a pull towards the other party. During the initial stages of this connection it can cause a lot of confusion for the pair whilst they try to figure out why they are thinking about the other person so much, why they may be dreaming about them, and why they are attracted towards them when there seems to be no commonality between the two. There are always disparities between them which may include age difference, culture, religion, social status, lifestyle etcetera and one or both may already be in other committed relationships at the time. It has to be this way for specific reasons.

THE ENERGETIC BOND.

The energetic bond is formed when the feminine pair of the two surrenders

energetically to the masculine allowing ‘his’ energy to bond with ‘hers’. This is because masculine energy is action-oriented and directive and feminine energy is receptive. In this couple, their energies are perfectly matched to harmonize with each other. The energy sensations experienced as part of this connection are felt in a literal way within the physical body.

N.B. When I speak in terms of directive and receptive, this is not meant to indicate that masculine energy should be dominant or aggressive and feminine energy should be submissive nor is it intended to be gender specific. We all contain aspects of both masculine and feminine energies and one or the other of these can be more active at different stages of life and depending on the circumstances that we’re encountering. It fluctuates. However the energies between these two are designed for one to lead and the other to follow, at least in terms of forming the energy bond and initiating Kundalini (see below) and this is usually experienced as the masculine leading and the feminine opening up and being receptive to ‘his’ energy.

KUNDALINI.

The other way we can describe it is a Kundalini rising. So the energy blossoms from the root chakra, through the solar plexus chakra, up to the heart chakra and onwards through the third-eye chakra and crown chakra. It is, to the best of my knowledge, one of the only ways to discern if this is a genuine T.F. connection. In this case the Kundalini has not been something either one of them may have individually practiced before or experienced and it is spontaneous. Through this experience they can teach each other to feel safe within a sexual encounter as well as to experience and open up to sensing love in a physical way. Twin Flames are able to enjoy a sexual relationship without any physical connection between them, they do not have to be with each other for this to happen. Regardless of the distance they will feel as though the other party is joined with them. In the same way, they are able to feel the physical sensation of touch by their twin, stroking the hair, kissing the lips, a hug. There is no other sexual relationship that matches the intensity of one where both kundalini and love are experienced though it is possible to experience this in other relationships if both partners have a shared interest in exploring their sexual relationship and work on opening up the chakras during sex in order to sustain the pleasure.

TELEPATHY.

Through this bond, a telepathic and healing connection is formed. They usually have access to each other’s feelings, can see visual imagery sent from one to the other and music can be relayed to express emotions, thoughts and words. If they work on opening up to this they may eventually be able to hear each other’s thoughts in the form of short bursts of words or sentences.

THE ‘HEART PULL’.

The other physical energy expression is what is described as a ‘heart pull’. When one or the other is needing attention or reassurance from their twin, their heart ‘pulls’ energetically on the heart of the other and this is felt as a pulling sensation in the chest – but not in an uncomfortable way. The heart emits a strong energy of compassion and love which can be experienced as a warm hug by the other. They can be on the other side of the world from each other and this will still be felt in a physical way at the time they connect.

ENERGY HEALING.

They can also send energy-healing to each other, usually this happens instinctively, and it is felt as a warmth through and around the entire body extending out and encompassing the extremities. It can lower the blood pressure, relieve pain and change the emotional state of the other twin from sadness to joy through the reassurance the healing contains.

CAN THE CONNECTION BE BROKEN?

For the above reasons, this makes it very hard to pull away from this connection. However, if there is no possibility or choice made to be together in the future, in time, through conditioned response to lack of physical presence, the yearning to be together diminishes and some of the intensity goes from the connection though the love never does. Very few of us ever have the privilege of experiencing love and connection in this way – we can love our own children with the same intensity as our twin but we usually don’t have a telepathic connection with them or are able to feel their touch without them being physically present. This doesn’t mean that we love our children less by the way, it just means we experience this love differently - but just as with our own children - the thought of losing a T.F. is distressing so there is a reluctance to attempt to break the connection even if there is no intention or ability to create a formal union. The connection has to be this way – if it were something that could be easily discarded the purpose of the connection would never be achieved. It is not just a loving union, it is a spiritual one. A Soul connection. It is rare and divinely ordained. It cannot be broken by them through conscious choice because it wasn’t made through conscious choice. It is a Soul agreement and is therefore either instinctive or an agreement made by something other than the brain. It also cannot be broken – though it can be influenced – by other external party’s who may desire to disrupt it.

WHAT IS IT’S PURPOSE?

One of the main reasons as to why this connection happens for this pair in their shared lifetime is to teach them to feel and express unconditional love. This is love for others without the need to possess or control them; allowing them the freedom to live the life that they choose without the desire to manipulate the outcome for self-serving purposes. The idea of causing their twin pain is usually abhorrent and even though there will be normal human feelings experienced throughout the time they share this connection including anger, frustration, bitterness and blame, when it comes to acting on these emotions they will be more inclined to strongly resist them. One of the reasons for this is because they can feel the other twin’s feelings in a literal way – so any pain caused by one will be felt by the other one equally as much and this pain will be compounded by feelings of guilt and shame. This is a personal healing journey in this respect. However the connection exists for other purposes as well. It usually has the effect of elevating their consciousness allowing them to see and experience life in a very different way. It can open up their creative abilities and it also tends to affect other people external to them in a positive way. It isn’t uncommon that after experiencing this connection that their lives can expand in a positive direction in other ways in terms of career, home, abundance and spiritual awareness. Knowing that life is not just a biological existence on a material plane but something other, and that we have access to other energies that exist in the universe beyond the illusion that we and others are in control of what happens and what we’re allowed to experience is very freeing. With this knowledge it not only helps to change this couple’s lives but also helps them to affect and support other people in their own life changes in a hugely positive way.

ARE TWIN FLAMES EXPERTS AT RELATIONSHIPS?

It can often be the case that both of these Souls have experienced previous disruption, abandonment or pain in close personal relationships from childhood to adulthood. This pain has (to some degree) usually been transcended or, at the least, has not caused either one of them to harden their heart towards others. They are usually quite loving individuals and have a lot of compassion and an ability to intuit how others are feeling. However, some of the difficulties they’ve experienced may have caused them to form adult attachments with other people based on addiction or fear of abandonment. Co-dependent relationships may be something that they have experienced in family, friendships and love or even fleeing from partners and rejecting opportunities for commitment. Through experiencing an uncontrollable bond of love without the reassurance of the ultimate outcome and the inability to emotionally abandon their twin, they heal aspects of themselves that still relate to addiction, co-dependency and running. Once these difficulties have been overcome neither one will be attracted towards other relationships of any description in the future where they experience uncomfortable sensations that relate to patterns and behaviours that they’ve now released and if they were formerly averse to commitment they will be more open to being in a relationship in the future and experiencing the companionship that this could bring. For this reason, whilst they may not start out as experts in relationships, the Twin Flame connection is likely to help them heal any difficulties within a current relationship or only form future relationships with the potential to offer genuine connection without any karmic or negative traits. They will be very selective about who they choose and the shift in their energy tends to attract in only those who share the same desire to cultivate a healthy relationship.

ONE SOUL OR TWO?

I do not think any evidence exists to prove that this is either two separate Souls that resonate at the same frequency, two Souls that embody polar opposite energies, or one Soul split into two bodies, but based on the sensations described above and the fact that it isn’t necessary for either one of them to have experienced Kundalini previously, or be trained energy healers, or to already be good at using telepathy – it is likely that at least part of the Soul is shared between them. Of all of the other people external to us on the planet the only person we have that we know what they’re thinking and feeling when they’re thinking and feeling it, and that we have the power to calm and heal, is ourselves. So it would make sense that if we can feel them, see their thoughts, possibly hear them and definitely heal them – that we are them – to some degree. We also love them, and we love them unconditionally from the moment we form the energetic bond – sometimes before that even happens…the energy bond just compounds it and so, in this case, we also learn how to love ourselves. The differences in them in terms of different life experiences can also mean that they provide each other with the healthier traits that they embody. For example, if one twin were less grounded and able to work on their tangible security and the other had those abilities then they gift this energy to the other. If one were more complex emotionally and the other more grounded then, vice versa; they would gift these traits. These gifts are passed energetically through the soul-bond or cord-connection. In harnessing each other’s energy, what they need is given freely to them through the bond. Similarly, if they form a union at any point they share life experiences and because of the many differences in the lives that they have lived separately, they act as teachers to each other.

WILL I BE ABLE TO FEEL IT IF MY TWIN HAS SEX WITH ANOTHER

PERSON?

Unfortunately this is a possibility. It can be the case that if one or both twins are coupled, that the sexual relationship within that partnership is stagnant, but it isn’t reasonable to expect that either twin will never have a sexual relationship with their current partner. In fact, because the other partner can usually feel their person withdrawing or being distracted, they may try to rejuvenate the sexual relationship through fear of loss. If you sense this happening then try to distract yourself with physical activity until it is over. It can initially cause a very visceral reaction because it feels like betrayal but with time you can learn to distract yourself during the occasion. Be aware that if you are also sexually intimate with another your twin will also feel this. Don’t let this put you off if you truly want to heal your current relationship and if it’s worth saving or if you want to have a sexual relationship with a new partner. It is a very disturbing element to this connection but not one that can’t be surmounted in time.

SHOULD I TALK TO OTHERS ABOUT HOW I’M FEELING?

If you need support then yes. This is not an easy experience, in fact it’s probably one of the most difficult experiences that you’re likely to have on many levels. It is a connection that can bring an unbelievable amount of joy – in many ways it is a gift – but it comes with a lot of sadness and at times grief attached to it. Try to remember throughout it all that it is still beneficial to your healing. It is often through the hardest challenges in life that we find ourselves on the path of genuine healing. If you are going to speak to someone find someone who you can trust who you know will not be judgmental. It is going to be difficult for someone who has never had this experience to fully comprehend how you’re feeling but someone that loves you will try and will at least be open to listening to you. If you do this however, do remember that any advice they give you is also subject to the same terms. They may infer that this is a Karmic relationship or, in the worst cases, that you are experiencing some sort of mental break so their advice is only going to be based on what they’ve already experienced or what they’re trained and educated to understand. In many instances T.F.’s won’t talk to anyone about their experience, not only for reasons of being misunderstood but they’ll also feel annoyed if they feel that their experience is being demeaned in any way. They already know it sounds strange or unlikely and they already know their circumstances may make it impossible for them to be with this person but they don’t need to have that reaffirmed. It also interferes with the process of their own healing as they may feel a renewed sense of giving in or abandoning their twin - then they cycle back to more negative feelings of blame, irritation, frustration and guilt.

DO TWIN FLAMES END UP TOGETHER?

Some T.F. connections can eventually end up as formal and traditional relationships but many others won’t result in this. This depends on how much each of them possibly understand or interpret the experience that they’re having and how capable they are of changing their current circumstances to embrace their twin as part of their life in the future if they want to do this. It is not a fact that T.F.’s will heal every aspect of themselves that needs to change in order to be in a relationship with each other. Especially one that could appear unconventional to others or one that could cause their life to change in a disruptive way. Yes, it can bring an immense amount of love and freedom into life for the pair but how compromising is this going to be if it requires them to sacrifice other bonds that they have already formed or the security of their current circumstances? If there is any possibility of a future together it has to be happen in divine timing, not when we think it should happen. A T.F. Union won’t normally happen if it’s going to ruin one or the other person’s life in some way. If you are stuck on waiting to be with your twin, this isn’t part of loving them unconditionally so you need to refocus on that aspect of the agreement. Waiting for someone to change themselves or change their circumstances for our benefit is about getting our needs met and not taking into consideration the other person’s. Waiting also stalls our own action in creating our own future. T.F.’s have to cultivate patience and release any expectations that they have. In this way they refocus on their own healing, they put attention on the other areas of life they want to work on as well as potentially creating a better future for themselves and they give their twin the space to do this also. Some T.F.’s do experience union and these can go on to affect other people in life and raise the vibration of humanity on this planet. They may achieve much in terms of changing the way life is lived on this planet or changing the way healing is applied, usually whatever they’re changing involves a huge amount of love. This is one of the facets of experiencing such a rare connection – that it is intended to affect others, not just themselves. However, even if T.F.’s don’t achieve union together, their independent life is generally changed enough that it influences their future circumstances and other people around them.

It is said that gratitude is the highest frequency we can experience but I don’t agree with this. Personally I think it’s love. Love has the power to heal over and above any other energy that exists. Loving people freely, without attachment and expectation is healing. Love also helps us to forgive and forgiveness frees us.

Don’t give up hope that union can happen but take reassurance from the fact that you’re always connected even if not physically together and ultimately reunion will be experienced in Heaven or on some other plane if it’s not achieved on Earth in your lifetime.

Gina X