What To Expect from a Psychic Love Reading.

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Recently I posted a podcast where myself and a friend and colleague, David Thomas Wright (www.davidthomaswright.com) who also works as in intuitive psychic reader discussed the 'Top 10 Questions' we are asked from clients who come for a love and relationship psychic reading. You may be interested to listen to this episode, especially if you are currently exploring the world of love and romance.

The episode is quite long but if you scroll down the screen on spotify it does list the questions we discussed and has timestamps to take you right to the relevant sections if you don't want to listen to the entire podcast. This blog is a transcript of what we discussed in case you'd prefer to read through rather than listen:

Top Ten Questions About Love and Relationships: An Intuitive's Guide

Welcome to this comprehensive guide on the most common questions we receive in our work as professional intuitives. My colleague David Thomas Wright and I have worked with thousands of clients over many years, and we've noticed clear patterns in what people seek guidance on when it comes to matters of the heart.

This isn't just a list of questions—it's a deep dive into the emotional landscape of modern relationships, the energetic dynamics at play, and most importantly, how you can reclaim your power in your romantic journey. Whether you're navigating a complicated situation, healing from heartbreak, or waiting for new love, these insights are designed to help you understand your experience more deeply.

Question 1: When Will Things Happen?

The Timeline Trap

One of the most universal questions we hear: "When will my lover reach out to me? When will they be ready to commit? When will their feelings change? When will we reconcile?" For those waiting for new love: "When is somebody coming in for me?"

The challenge with timeline questions is that they often come from a place of anxiety rather than empowerment. While it's completely natural to want to know when relief or happiness is coming, becoming too focused on dates and deadlines can actually warp the energy of the situation.

Time as a Sequence of Events

We've learned to look at time as a sequence of events rather than fixed calendar dates. Sometimes a breakthrough does come through as a specific date—the 14th of November, for instance. But more often, certain things need to happen in a domino effect to activate each other and arrive at a particular outcome.

Think about emotional processes like grief or personal growth. These journeys don't correlate neatly to calendar timeframes. If you're waiting for your love interest to have some sort of epiphany or shift in feelings, that internal transformation happens on its own timeline, influenced by their actions, experiences, and internal processing.

The Watched Pot Problem

There's an old saying: "A watched pot never boils." Energetically, this holds profound truth. When you check your phone constantly for a text message or obsessively count down days until a predicted reunion, you fragment your energy and disrupt the natural flow. This creates anxiety and takes you out of your own power.

Instead of being rooted in your own connection to your life purpose and creative power, you're essentially trying to get into someone else's head, which is both exhausting and disempowering.

How to Work with Timelines

When we do give rough timeframes—say, six months for a situation to develop—we're not asking you to mark days off a calendar. Instead, we're helping you make an empowered choice: Are you willing to hold space for this possibility for that duration? And more importantly, how will you use that time to stay in your power?

Focus on other areas of your life during waiting periods. Pour energy into your career, deepen platonic friendships, pursue personal goals or creative projects. The more you can stay engaged with your own life rather than fixating on when something will happen, the more likely you are to maintain an attractive, confident energy.

Question 2: What's Going On in My Lover's Mind?

The Ethical Question of Psychic Surveillance

People frequently ask us: "What is going on in my lover's mind? What's happening in their life? How do they feel about me?" This raises an important question about the ethics of intuitive work.

Our energetic link is primarily with our client and their spirit team. We can sense where another person stands—their core intention, their general emotional state, their circumstances—but we're given this information in service of our client's empowerment, not as gossip or surveillance.

Intention Over Emotion

The most powerful aspect of another person's mindset is their core intention, not their fluctuating emotions. When we're looking at the potential of a relationship, we focus on fundamental questions: What is this person's intention at this point in their life? What are they essentially looking for on their journey?

Emotions naturally go hot and cold. Someone might feel intensely connected to you one week and distant the next, influenced by stress, fears, or external circumstances. But their underlying intention—whether they're genuinely available for a committed relationship, whether they're ready for the kind of connection you're seeking—is far more revealing and stable.

The More Important Question

Here's what we always explore with clients: Why aren't you asking them directly?

There are valid reasons for not having direct conversations, especially in new connections. You don't ask after one date what the long-term scope is. But when someone has been in a situation for months or even years without clarity, we need to address the elephant in the room: Are there assertiveness issues? Do you feel comfortable being your authentic self?

The Cost of Holding Back

If you've experienced difficult behaviors from your love interest but haven't communicated your boundaries and values, you're creating a problematic foundation. Should you eventually get into a relationship with this person, they'll have no knowledge of what's important to you because you've been withholding that information.

This is why we support clients in their journey toward greater assertiveness. If you're not showing up authentically early on—expressing what makes you feel valued, what hurts you, what you need—you could end up in a relationship where your partner has no real understanding of who you are.

Question 3: Why Did My Lover Break Away or Ghost Me?

Understanding the Many Forms of Ghosting

The definition of "ghosting" varies dramatically depending on where someone is emotionally. Some clients describe being ghosted after 24 hours of no contact, while others are dealing with a sudden, unexplained exit that happened months ago with no closure.

This is where professional intuitives can provide tremendous value through context. Sometimes it's not about reconciliation at all—it's about healing and understanding so you can move forward.

The Hidden Context

We often reveal information unknown to our clients about why someone pulled away. This isn't always dramatic—not necessarily shocking secrets or hidden affairs. Sometimes it's more pragmatic: life circumstances that made continuing the connection difficult, combined with poor communication skills or conflict avoidance.

When we explore the love interest's value system, clients sometimes get frustrated: "Well, you just don't treat people like that!" And we might agree with you. But we're not looking for logic when it comes to human psychology and behavior. Much of what drives our actions is unconscious, rooted in childhood experiences or unexamined trauma.

The Reality of Unconscious Behaviour

The person who ghosted you might not even understand why they behaved that way. Sometimes we get a sense of their history—a difficult upbringing, a series of painful relationship experiences, patterns of avoidant attachment. This context doesn't condone the behavior, but it helps explain it.

More importantly, if there's a significant disparity in values—they ghost people when things get difficult while you value direct communication—this highlights exactly why the relationship couldn't have worked anyway.

The Closure Dilemma

One of the most frustrating aspects is when someone would be completely fine moving on if they just had closure, but the love interest withholds it. They might be doing this not only out of avoidance or cowardice but potentially because they want to keep you as a backup option.

We encourage clients to seek their own closure rather than waiting indefinitely for someone else to provide it. This is difficult but empowering work. Ask yourself: How long am I willing to wait for closure that may never come? Can I give myself permission to move forward without it?

Learning from Red Flags

When we rewind these situations, there are usually earlier moments when something didn't sit quite right. We're not saying you manifested bad treatment or that it's your fault—that's absolutely not helpful. But having the confidence to honor your own intuitive insights earlier, when you first sense something is off, can prevent deeper pain later.

Question 4: Why Have I Attracted a Connection with Limiting Circumstances?

Identifying Limiting Circumstances

Limiting circumstances come in many forms: affairs where one or both people are already in committed relationships, long-distance connections that seem logistically impossible, partners who are emotionally unavailable or refuse to communicate openly about their feelings and intentions.

These situations appear immediately in our readings because they're fundamental components that affect everything else. You might be emotionally aligned with someone, but if they live on another continent or are married to someone else, that's the reality you're working with.

Why This Appears First in Readings

We show these circumstances first because you could spend an entire session exploring emotional nuance and compatibility, but if there's an obvious obstacle, that needs to be acknowledged upfront. It's not necessarily a complete block—many people do successfully navigate long-distance relationships or begin connections when circumstances are complicated—but it's what we're working around.

There's no moral judgment here. Life is messy, and people meet each other in all kinds of situations. But we need to put these factors on the table so everyone is aware of what they're choosing.

The Attraction to Drama

Here's where it gets psychologically interesting: Why have you attracted this particular situation? Sometimes—not always, but sometimes—there's something you need to explore about yourself.

Limiting circumstances can be like the most intriguing novel you've ever read. There's always a new chapter, a new dramatic turn of events, a new expression of the will-they-won't-they tension. If you're not fully clear about your own purpose, goals, and vision for your life, it's very easy to get drawn into these situations because they're constantly engaging.

Making It Your Conscious Choice

The key difference is consciousness and accountability. If you say to yourself, "I'm signing up for this connection with someone who's already attached and lives in a different country," and you make that choice with full awareness, you can make the journey your own spiritual process.

But you cannot use this as a measuring stick for your self-worth. If you have emotional bumps and scrapes along the way, that's not evidence that something is wrong with you. It's evidence that you're navigating a genuinely complex situation.

The Rescuer Dynamic

Many clients fall into a rescuer pattern, particularly (though not exclusively) women. They're doing enormous emotional labor for someone who's in a difficult commitment, dealing with trauma, or facing significant challenges. There's a sense of needing to save or be there for the other person.

This creates an imbalanced dynamic where one person is always giving and the other is always receiving support. Even if this person eventually becomes available, you've established a parent-child or therapist-patient dynamic rather than an equal partnership.

Question 5: Why Do I Keep Attracting the Same Type of Person?

The Pattern Recognition

When you notice yourself repeatedly attracting people with similar problematic patterns—emotionally unavailable partners, people with unexamined trauma, partners who engage in sabotaging behaviors, people who require constant emotional labour—it's time to look at yourself, not just at them.

This can be uncomfortable, but it's also incredibly empowering. You can't control what others do, but you can absolutely shift your own patterns.

The Healer Identity

Sometimes our unconscious definition of being lovable is tied to being helpful, being needed, or providing emotional support. If you believe your value comes from fixing or rescuing others, you'll unconsciously seek out people who need fixing or rescuing.

This might come from childhood experiences where you learned that love was conditional upon being useful or taking care of others' needs. Or it might stem from a lack of modelling—you never saw what a balanced, reciprocal adult relationship looks like.

The Problem with Florence Nightingale Dynamics

If you're Florence Nightingale and your partner is the wounded soldier, there's an inherent problem: the goal of healing is for the person to get up and walk away healthy. They're not supposed to remain dependent on you.

This same pattern appears in parental dynamics where one partner is like a teenager who needs guidance and the other is like a mother figure. Eventually, teenagers are supposed to leave the nest. So in any of these imbalanced dynamics, successful "healing" means the other person becomes independent and often leaves.

The Exhaustion of Emotional Labour

All of these clients consciously want something receptive. They want to feel cared for, supported, valued. But their situation-ships are filled with active, exhausting emotional labor and the energy of constantly propping someone else up.

That's why it never feels truly satisfying—because it's the opposite of what you actually need. You're running on empty, trying to fill someone else's cup.

Breaking the Pattern

To break this cycle, you need to examine what you're getting from these dynamics. Are you unconsciously more comfortable in a helper role than in a vulnerable, receptive role? Does receiving make you uncomfortable? Do you feel you have to "earn" love through service?

Have the courage to step back earlier when you recognize these patterns emerging. It's not about red flags in the sense of "this is a bad person." It's about noticing when familiar dynamics activate something in you that says, "I've been here before, and I don't want to do this again."

Question 6: How Do I Relax in My New or Emerging Connection?

When New Love Triggers Old Wounds

For people who have been single for a long time, are very independent and self-sufficient, or have significant past trauma, entering a new relationship can bring every unresolved issue flooding to the surface. This is one of the most fascinating and challenging aspects of intimacy.

All relationships involve an exchange of energy and learning. But romantic connections, because they involve such deep emotional trust and vulnerability, can be especially triggering. Wounds from childhood and formative relationships suddenly become very present.

The Difference Between Intuition and Trauma

Here's the critical question we explore with clients: Are your concerns coming from genuine intuition and values, or from old trauma creating hyper-vigilance?

When we believe a connection has real potential—when we sense it "has legs" and could develop into something stable and long-term—we help clients distinguish between:

●     Valid concerns based on the other person's actual behavior and red flags

●     Hypervigilance and catastrophizing based on past wounds

●     Self-sabotage driven by fear of vulnerability

This is almost like a CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) approach. We examine your presumptions, your worst-case-scenario thinking, your tendency to assume the worst. Has this person really ghosted you, or have they not texted back for 12 hours because they're at work?

The Throne Metaphor: Sitting in Your Power

Imagine that when you were born, you were given a kingdom and a throne. You are the sovereign, and you have a divine connection that nothing can topple. Everything that comes through the door of your throne room has already passed through security—your guides, your divine protection, your intuition have that covered.

What arrives is for your consideration, not something that threatens you. You don't have to be defensive or guarded in an unhealthy way. You can be aware and discerning without being so vigilant that you can't actually enjoy the experience.

Trust Takes Time

Trust is earned over time through consistent, responsible behaviour, not just verbal promises. Someone saying "you mean the world to me" or "I'll call you this weekend" is nice, but true trust comes from seeing someone follow through repeatedly.

This is why we look at what happens over time rather than taking someone at their word immediately. You don't have to approach a new love interest from a skeptical, guarded place—that's not empowering either. But healthy trust develops gradually through experience.

The Self-Sabotage Warning Signs

Some people actively look for reasons to sabotage emerging relationships. This is a form of self-protection: if you find an excuse to walk away, you never have to risk being hurt or disappointed.

Self-awareness is key. When you notice yourself fixating on small issues or interpreting neutral behaviors negatively, ask yourself: Why am I looking at it this way? What evidence do I actually have? Am I making assumptions? If I am, why?

Understanding your own patterns allows you to consciously choose whether to give this connection a real chance or whether your concerns are genuinely valid.

Question 7: When Will I Meet My New Lover and What Are They Like?

The Courier Analogy

We can often see potentials for new love and sense when someone is approaching. But here's an important question: Is anyone home when the universe tries to deliver?

If a courier tries to deliver a package and no one is home, they'll keep trying—but you have to be present to receive it. Being "home" doesn't just mean being emotionally ready (though that matters). It also means doing the practical legwork to create opportunities.

The Social Network Question

One of the first things we assess is whether someone needs to do something different to attract this experience. Some people have quite limited social networks. They work from home, socialize with the same small group of friends, and follow the same routines week after week.

We're not always talking about dating apps—that's only been part of human experience for about 25 years. But there's a ripple effect concept: Where do you need to drop a pebble into the pond to create new waves of possibility?

Showing Up Differently

This isn't about becoming someone you're not. It's about expanding your presence in the world. Sometimes it means accepting social invitations you'd normally decline, joining groups aligned with your interests, or simply being more open to spontaneous connections.

The divine can be proactive, and synchronicity is real. But you need to create space and opportunity for serendipity to occur.

The Specificity Trap

When people ask what their future partner will be like, we walk a careful line. We don't withhold information, but we've learned that super-specific criteria can actually block manifestation rather than support it.

Think about it: every time you've really fancied someone, did you cross-reference them against a checklist? Attraction is a sensory, intrinsic, almost magical experience. It shouldn't feel like an Excel spreadsheet.

Understanding the "Why" Behind Your List

If you insist someone must have a particular job, make a certain income, or have specific physical features, we explore what's behind that requirement.

"Why do they need to have a lot of money?" Sometimes the answer reveals fears about scarcity, scripts from a humble upbringing, or beliefs that you can't provide for yourself. The specificity has tension around it, and that tension can actually repel rather than attract.

The Celebrity Look-Alike Method

Sometimes we use celebrity look-alikes not because your future partner will literally look like Brad Pitt or Tom Hanks, but to convey a quality, a vibe, an energy. If we're thinking about Tom Hanks in "Sleepless in Seattle," we're evoking a sense of warmth, reliability, gentle charm—not necessarily his exact physical appearance.

This can actually be a useful manifestation tool. Watch movies with characters who embody qualities you're drawn to. You're not trying to attract that specific actor; you're getting clear on the energy and qualities you want to invite into your life.

The "Never My Type" Phenomenon

We've had many experiences of describing someone to a client who responds, "That doesn't sound like anyone I'd ever be with," only to have them meet exactly that person later and fall deeply for them.

We can only share what we see. Sometimes the person who comes in doesn't match your mental checklist at all—different background, different appearance, different profession—but the actual connection, the chemistry, the compatibility is undeniable.

Love isn't always about appearance, status, or cultural background. Sometimes it's a meeting of minds, a sense of humour that clicks, or an inexplicable feeling of "home." We love who we love, and that can be completely unexpected.

Question 8: Is This My Soulmate? Are We Fated to Be Together?

Redefining Soulmates

The concept of "the one soulmate" is actually quite limiting and, frankly, somewhat disempowering. Our clients often have different definitions of soulmate, twin flame, and other terms, so we always ask what these words mean to them.

Soulmates can absolutely show up platonically—friends who feel drawn into your life for a reason, people who activate profound personal growth, family members with whom you share deep bonds. Not every soulmate is meant to be your life partner.

The Sofa Mate Concept

We prefer a slightly less glamorous but more practical term: sofa mate. This is someone you can happily sit next to on the sofa in 10, 20, or 30 years. It's about sustainable, daily compatibility rather than intense, dramatic connection.

Who can you go to the supermarket with and decide on fabric softener together without it becoming a conflict? Who can you problem-solve with, communicate with, and resolve disputes with—beyond just "do we really like each other and feel passion?"

Looking at Potential, Not Fate

We look at the potential and mileage of a connection rather than declaring absolute fate. This has to do with:

●     The balance of energies between two people

●     Alignment of core values

●     Communication styles and conflict resolution abilities

●     Practical compatibility in lifestyle and goals

●     The ability to support each other's growth

Something can have "legs"—real potential to go the distance—but that doesn't mean it's cosmically fated or that you have no choice in the matter.

The Generational Shift

Our grandmothers' generation often met someone from the neighborhood at age 19, stayed in their community, and remained married "until death do us part" whether they were happy or not. That was the expectation and often the only option, especially for women.

We don't live that life anymore. The modern world offers more autonomy, more choices, more agency. This is largely positive—it means people can leave unhealthy relationships, can prioritize compatibility over obligation, and can have multiple significant relationships across a lifetime.

The Feminist Perspective

One of us noted turning 45 recently with this reflection: "I don't want to be here in another 10 years analyzing what some man thinks about you, because that's not the truth of you as a person." This work should empower you, not diminish you.

The old narratives about soulmates often tie into outdated notions of security—particularly for women, the idea that you needed one man for financial and social security throughout your life. While this is still true in some cultures and contexts, many people now have more independence.

Things don't have to be fated anymore because there are more choices available. You have more power to shape your romantic journey than previous generations could even imagine.

Question 9: What Do I Need at This Stage of My Life?

The Blueprint Problem

Even though we live in what seems like a modern, sophisticated age, we're only a few generations removed from vastly different relationship expectations. Our grandmothers and great-grandmothers lived completely different experiences, and those old blueprints still influence us unconsciously.

Many people don't have models for what we're navigating now—particularly divorce, multiple relationships across a lifetime, or choosing to leave partnerships that aren't fulfilling even when they're not overtly abusive.

The Divorce Revolution

More people get divorced now than in previous generations, and that's not necessarily bad. It often means people are having more conscious relationships. They realize it's not healthy to stay in codependent, limiting, or unfulfilling partnerships, and they have more agency to leave.

But if you're 50 and navigating your first divorce or significant breakup after a 20-year relationship, you might not have seen how anyone in your family successfully moved through this. You don't have a blueprint for what comes next or what's possible on the other side.

Unconscious vs. Conscious Relationships

Previous relationships—especially those that began in an earlier generation or life phase—might have been quite unconscious. "This is just what you do. You get married. You have children. You stay together." There wasn't necessarily deep reflection on compatibility, values, or whether you were truly happy.

In the awakening that often comes at midlife, you finally ask: "What actually makes me tick? What do I genuinely want and need from a romantic partner?" This is exciting territory, even if it's unfamiliar.

Different Needs at Different Stages

Someone in their 20s or 30s might be focused on finding a partner to build a life with, start a family, or establish themselves professionally. Someone in their 50s, 60s, or 70s has different priorities—perhaps companionship, shared interests, or a partner who respects their independence while offering connection.

Your needs change as you move through life chapters, and that's not only normal—it's healthy. What you needed at 25 is not what you need at 55, and pretending otherwise serves no one.

The Learning Curve

Sometimes the next person you meet isn't "the one" for the long term, but they're important for helping you understand what you need at this stage. You might need lived experience to get clarity on who you are now and what you're actually looking for.

This doesn't mean kissing a lot of frogs or having misadventures. It means giving yourself permission to date, to explore, to discover through experience rather than theory what feels right for you now.

Beyond "Not Like My Ex"

Many people's criteria after a breakup is simply "I don't want them to be like my ex." But you can't manifest a positive experience from a negative framework. You can't attract what you want by focusing on what you don't want.

You need to shift from "anything but that" to "this is what I'm actually seeking." What qualities do you want to experience? What kind of dynamic do you want to create? What does a fulfilling relationship look like for you now?

Question 10: How Can I Get Over Someone or Find Balance in a Confusing Situation?

The Fixation Factor

At the heart of this question is how we can become fixated—even obsessive—about situations that aren't giving us what we need. We include ourselves in this observation; these patterns are part of the human experience, not a personal failing.

Situation-ships are particularly prone to this because they're full of ups and downs, will-they-won't-they dynamics, hot-and-cold behaviour. As a topic, they can become completely dominant in your life, consuming your thoughts and emotional energy.

When We Weigh In

We often address the fundamental question quite early in a session: Is this situation actually going somewhere, or not? While we need to be sensitive about creating stress or disappointment, the rest of the reading is usually governed by what the foundation actually is.

If something genuinely isn't going to work out, starting with that truth allows us to focus on healing, learning, and moving forward rather than spending an hour analyzing every nuance of a dead-end situation.

The Ecology of Your Life

Even when we're asking about love, there's often something bigger going on in terms of what you need to be a balanced, flourishing person. That's the real question, and it's also the key to healing.

When you're strongly focused on a situation-ship—whether it's come and gone, gone hot and cold, or had multiple iterations—and you're trying to find yourself within it, we need to look at the bigger picture of your life.

Reclaiming Your Sense of Purpose

We always explore: What is your sense of purpose? What do you see for yourself over the next six months? What are you actively creating and shaping?

In these consuming situations, you feel like a sitting duck—passive, waiting, hoping. Where can you feel like you're in the driving seat instead? That energy of agency and forward momentum is not only healthier for you; it's also literally more attractive on an energetic level.

The Community Question

We look at your community and support network. In terms of feeling seen and feeling cherished, we know it's not the same when friends or colleagues value you versus when a romantic partner does. We absolutely understand that.

But many people expect a partner (or potential partner) to do the work of ten people. If your sense of value and feeling seen comes from only one source or potential source, that's enormous pressure.

Do you have a diverse community—different people in different contexts who see and appreciate different aspects of you? Friends, work connections, creative collaborators, family members you're close with, hobby groups, volunteer organizations?

When you have multiple sources of connection and validation, one person doesn't have to carry all that weight. This makes you more resilient and less likely to become destabilized by romantic uncertainty.

The Emotional Labour Burnout

Many clients are exhausted from doing too much emotional labour. They've burned out wondering if a relationship will come into focus or processing why something in the past didn't work out. This energetic expense wasn't balanced—you were giving far more than you were receiving.

Ask yourself honestly: Am I open to someone who is more self-actualized? Or am I unconsciously attracted to people who need fixing, mentoring, or significant support to become the partner I'm hoping for?

The Self-Actualization Gap

There's increasing conversation (particularly around heterosexual dynamics) about how many women haven't experienced men who are self-actualized enough, emotionally intelligent enough, or willing to do their own inner work to meet them as equals.

We're not here to criticize men as a group. But if your unconscious definition of being lovable is about being helpful rather than just existing and being valued for who you are, you'll keep attracting situations that require excessive emotional labor.

Can you energetically leave space for something more balanced, where someone can meet you where you are rather than requiring you to grow them up or heal their wounds first?

The Addiction Parallel

Some relationship patterns have similarities to addiction. This isn't true for everyone, but it's worth examining honestly. The ups and downs, the intermittent reinforcement (sometimes they're wonderful, sometimes they're distant), the hope that keeps you hooked—these create neurochemical patterns similar to substance dependencies.

Sometimes healing requires not just emotional processing but actual willpower. You might need to consciously choose to step back even when every fibre of your being wants to reach out, check their social media, or send "just one more text."

The Mindset Component

Your brain is working overtime trying to derive a sense of safety. It's trying to self-soothe, to find patterns, to predict and control an unpredictable situation. This creates anxiety rather than calm.

Recognize that this is your nervous system responding to uncertainty, not reality giving you important information. Sometimes the kindest thing you can do for yourself is to consciously redirect your attention, practice self-soothing techniques, and build tolerance for not knowing what will happen.

The Courage to Communicate

Ultimately, many relationship issues come down to assertiveness. All of us feel vulnerable sometimes, and having the courage to communicate our needs, ask for what we want, or lovingly exit situations that aren't serving us is challenging.

This is where working with a professional intuitive or coach can be valuable—not because we have magical answers, but because we can support you in finding your own courage to be vulnerable, to communicate authentically, and to honour your needs in your relationships.

A Message of Hope

In all our years of doing this work, when a situation hasn't worked out for someone, there has always been somebody else in their future. It's extraordinarily rare to see someone who will be alone forever or who has no more opportunities for love.

More significantly, we have never encountered anyone who ended up unhappy with the partner they actually moved on to after a difficult situation or breakup. Looking back, they almost always see that the painful ending was actually a blessing.

Yes, it can be extremely difficult to go through a relationship or situation-ship that doesn't have the outcome you wanted at the time. The grief, disappointment, and loss can feel overwhelming. But this is not the end of your love story.

There is always hope. Sometimes things don't work out because they weren't meant to be—not in a mystical, predetermined sense, but because there was a fundamental incompatibility, misalignment of values, or mismatch of readiness.

That doesn't mean your love life is over. It means you're being redirected toward something better aligned with who you are and what you genuinely need.

Final Thoughts: Returning to Your Power

Throughout all ten of these questions, there's a central theme: returning to your own power.

You are not a sitting duck waiting to be chosen. You are not a supporting character in someone else's story. You are the sovereign of your own life, sitting on your own throne, with everything that enters your experience showing up for your consideration—not your obligation.

The work we do as professional intuitives is ultimately about helping you:

●     Trust your own intuition and honor what doesn't sit right with you

●     Communicate your boundaries, values, and needs authentically

●     Recognize patterns that no longer serve you

●     Stay rooted in your own sense of purpose beyond any one relationship

●     Understand that your worth is inherent, not earned through service or emotional labor

●     Make conscious, empowered choices about what you're willing to explore or walk away from

Love is one of the most profound human experiences, and romantic heartbreak can affect you as deeply as bereavement. These feelings deserve respect, space, and support—not dismissal or trivialization.

But you also deserve to feel empowered in your romantic journey. You deserve relationships that are reciprocal, where you can be authentic, where your needs matter just as much as your partner's.

Whether you're navigating a confusing situation, healing from heartbreak, or waiting for new love, remember: You have inherent worth simply by breathing and being here. You have the power to create, to choose, and to shape your experience.

The most attractive energy you can embody is the energy of someone who knows their value, lives with purpose, stays connected to their community, and approaches relationships from a place of wholeness rather than lack.

That is the real magic. That is what will draw in the love you truly deserve.

Gina Thornton and David Thomas Wright